It’s hard to fathom that tomorrow marks the beginning of 2020. I still think it’s 2018 half the time, so the thought that 2020 is just around the corner is mind-boggling! Looking back at 2019, I won’t lie and say it’s been my favorite year. This year has been tumultuous and at times exhausting. I have always been one to over-extend myself and this year was no exception. Coupled with the loss of my father in July, there have been days where I felt like I was treading water in a desperate attempt to stay afloat. But here I am, writing and reflecting on the year with greater self-awareness and the recognition that in spite of it all, I have so much to be thankful for in my life.
I am so grateful for a mom and brother who love me, and a cat who sometimes bites me. They see me at my best and at my worst, but they accept me in spite of it all and I am so fortunate to call them my family. And I couldn’t imagine life without the friends who inspire me and make laughter part of my daily routine. The people in my life have undoubtedly been my favorite part of 2019.
Looking back on this year, whether I have wanted to or not, I’ve grown up a lot in the past twelve months. In the process, I have begun to realize that the adult me still has a lot of learning to do. No, I still don’t have my social security number memorized and no, I am not the best when it comes to monitoring my spending. But the beauty of it all is that it means I am very much still a work in progress. We are only anchored to who we decide to be and I love knowing that the New Year presents an opportunity to set my attention for the year with a fresh perspective.
I love the phrase “setting your attention”. I picked it up in a barre class during my freshman year of college and it has just stuck with me ever since. Rather than holding yourself to the sense of obligation tied to the word “resolution”, setting your attention for the year invites self-awareness and focus, both of which I could use a little more of in my life. Setting your attention is about honing in on your mindset and approaching life in the right headspace. So, for 2020 I’m framing my mindset around the following concepts:
- Intentionality: I stole this word from Kayleigh Dilworth – a true inspiration and the definition of a boss lady – and it has become my new favorite mantra. Both with regard to blog content and how I approach day to day tasks, I am aiming to be more intentional. That means asking myself what it will take to reach the goals I set and following a game plan to execute them successfully.
- Consistency: I am someone who struggles with maintaining a routine. For instance, I love to work out, but will often reach a point in the semester where I simply stop going to the gym because I convince myself that I don’t have time in my busy schedule to accommodate a three-day-a-week workout routine. Exceptions are one thing, but excuses are another. I am striving to be more consistent in 2020 and follow through on the promises I make to myself.
- Mindfulness: Mindfulness obliges us to be attentive to both ourselves and others. It compels us to act with forethought and without judgment. Of course, it is human nature to let stress and insecurity detract from how we juggle our day-to-day responsibilities and I am no stranger to this. I at times get overwhelmed by the fear of a challenge, without giving it the necessary forethought first. However, as I approach 2020, I want to use mindfulness as a tool for approaching each challenge with greater self-conviction and peace of mind.
I am so excited to see what 2020 brings and would love to know how y’all are setting your attention for the New Year! Let’s make 2020 the best year yet!